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the six-year resolution

< by Jill >

On January 1, 2004 I wrote 12 resolutions for the coming year. My foremost ambition — to end things with my ne’er-do-well high-school beau — seemed heartbreaking but essential. In the past two years, he had ensnared me in a good bit of trouble …

There was the time he asked me to wrap masking tape around plastic cups filled with powder. Little did I know, I helped him create cherry bombs that would later torch a field. And then there was the time he offered me a glass of water that smacked of pine trees and drain cleaner (it was gin). He deserved to get ditched.

Dovetailing this decision, I resolved to get a good boyfriend at college.

I wasn’t successful my freshman year, but my sophomore year yielded an 8-month relationship that, once again, taught me to stop chasing bad boys. Tear-soaked and heartsick, I ricocheted to the opposite extreme and found love in the form of a staunch-republican-christian-conservative. From this I learned the danger of dogma: It forbids open conversation, which is the lifeblood of love. And in the absence of open conversation, the relationship fizzled out and so did college.

Two years later, an old college friend visited me in Chicago to kick off the new year. We talked the whole night through, reminiscing about the campus newspaper and catching up on lost time. Six years after resolving to find a college beau, I had finally done it — and just this Monday, we celebrated our two-year anniversary.

Take heart if your resolutions have been deferred — some take more than a year to accomplish.

New Year's Eve 2013

Nate and Jill on New Year’s Eve 2012/13. Read Nate’s side of the story here: http://wp.me/p2FJLF-yn


  Malkire wrote @

Such a sweet story!

  abreakfastserial wrote @

Thank you!

  artreviewed wrote @

😀 Congratulations! xx

  abreakfastserial wrote @

Thank you, and may you also attain your heart’s desires 🙂

  Jorie wrote @

Aw, Happy New Year to you two cuties!

  on thehomefrontandbeyond wrote @

a wonderful resolution deferred —

  abreakfastserial wrote @

Indeed! And many happy years to come 🙂

  Amy wrote @

Congrats, lovebirds! xoxo

  Larry Who wrote @

“…a staunch-republican-christian-conservative….”

Except for the republican label, that’s me. Yet, I think you two are the greatest.

  abreakfastserial wrote @

I hesitated on labeling him that way because I don’t usually feel like labels go far to make friends or express ideas. That being said, the emphasis goes on “staunch” — a complete unwillingness to listen to other perspectives. It’s good to believe in things (it’s essential to believe in things!) but it’s even better to engage in continual conversation about the things you believe so that you have a correct understanding of differing viewpoints and establish a healthy balance of skepticism and faith. Hope that clarifies a bit 🙂

  Larry Who wrote @

I’m still a staunch reader of yours 😉

  abreakfastserial wrote @

Haha! Touche!

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